I remember seeing something on Facebook that was said by a couple that had been married for a year and a half. I don’t remember their exact words but “When he reached for the phone, his wife reached for it too.” Not that I’m a person that’s really going to say something like that on a regular basis but it made me sit up and take notice.
That’s why I say that in a marriage there should be a “reach” clause. Its a small thing, but it can make a huge difference in the relationship.
The reach clause is a phrase I learned from an awesome couple I know. They had a split a year and a half ago and their marriage was a little strained at first. They had broken up and they didn’t even think about it for a year. When they found out that their marriage was over, they decided to report it to the state. They said they didn’t want to have their marriage end in the state of Florida or any other state that had laws like that.
Reach reporting is a state law so it applies to the entire nation. Meaning, if your marriage ends because you report it, you can be prosecuted to death. I am 100% sure that this couple is not going to be successful in their marriage.
I think you’ll find that this couple is more like the average American citizen. I have a friend who divorced her husband after he was arrested for a DUI. She went and got a divorce herself. She said she wanted her marriage to be over. I think she was only half right. She ended up in a horrible marriage and her family is not the marrying kind either.
Another reason for your marriage is that you can’t simply say, “Hey, I’m not married.” It’s a good thing you’re not married when you are, but it does make you feel better about your marriage.
I think there’s a misconception about what we are talking about here. We are not talking about a man or a woman with an affair that is just ending on the side. That is not what we are talking about. We are talking about the woman or man who had their marriage ended because of a DUI or something that they felt was a big mistake. The divorce is only the tip of the iceberg, when you consider that a large number of people end up marrying their kids off after divorce.
I get the impression that what we are talking about is a guy who is too ashamed to admit that he’s been cheating on his wife and has decided to start using the Internet to get back at her. For me, the best place to go for this sort of story is to the divorce website. There are a number of things that you can do to help a depressed person with their situation.
First of all, if you are not in a relationship that is ending in divorce, then there is no reason for you to be upset. You are on your own, you can make up with your ex.
